Change of Life? Change Your Life!


Nearly 50 and fabulous

You’re a female in your 40s. You’ve started to become quite fatigued and you’re not sure why. There’s been a couple of times in meetings at work lately where you’ve not been able to find your words. You’ve done that presentation so many times before but this time, the words just seemed to vanish from your brain. You’re starting to ache in the mornings when you get out of bed. You still love your partner but quite frankly at the moment, you’d rather have a cup of tea than engage in any bedroom frolics. And your periods have been a little bit all over the place too -and it’s DEFINITELY not pregnancy.
Looks like you might be perimenopausal, right? You’re certainly showing several symptoms. It’s starting to impact your life and you feel like you need to get some help.
You may go to your GP and seek HRT – or you may look into alternatives – supplements or maybe something like acupuncture. You might look at talking groups like Menopause Cafés, somewhere where you can share what you’re going through.
But ultimately it’s here. You’re “ON THE CHANGE”.
That’s what it was called, wasn’t it? Said in whispered, hushed voices, maybe with a pointing finger – “She’s on the change, that Rosemary….”
Thing is, being “on the change” can last for up to a decade. It’s not necessarily a few months out of your life. And obviously it’s not something that you go through and then just revert to what you were before. It’s a move forward to the next phase, isn’t it. And I think that the world needs to stop thinking of it as being some sort of horrific metamorphosis into being an old lady. That’s what a lot of people seem to think! It’s awful isn’t it. Lots of jokes, memes and cartoons about menopause are around us being horrible, grumpy, snappy women that men should stay away from (heard of the seven dwarves of menopause? Itchy, Bitchy, Sleepy, Sweaty, Bloated, Forgetful and….. Psycho! It’s not funny really.)
But these days, we are living longer and longer, so menopause is something that happens during our midlife. On average us ladies now live 30 years in the post-menopausal stage. So I say let’s stop feeling bad about it …let’s embrace that change!
Let’s think of it as an opportunity to change our lives for the better. Let’s embrace that change.
It is actually a chance to improve ourselves. We can re-look at our diet and nutrition. Increase our exercise. Make time for our self-care. Work on our mental health. Take time for our relationships.
Yes it’s a change, but let’s make it a positive one. No longer Itchy, Bitchy, Sleepy, Sweaty, Bloated, Forgetful and Psycho but rather Gorgeous, Positive, Refreshed, Glowing, Happy, Sexy and Fabulous!